"Two men looked out from behind prison bars; one saw mud, the other stars."
Thus describes rural pastoral ministry. Here are some positive challenges I’ve
seen in my decade of pastoring rural churches… I like knowing a majority of the
people in town. There’s a power in going into the store and calling most
everybody there by name. Not every person will know your name, but they’ll
likely know you as "that Wesleyan minister."
There is generally a traditional mindset in rural churches. While this can also
be a detriment, what it means is that national trends take longer to arrive in
full force. Coming up with a policy on same-sex marriage isn’t really an issue
in Doaktown yet. Rural pastoring allows for a more flexible schedule, at least
in my experience. Not to say that you’re not kept busy, but people don’t tend to
live by the Day-Timer (or PDA…) as rigidly. Just stopping in to the local
hardware store or coffee shop and "chewing the fat" is appreciated, maybe even
expected. Generally, smaller communities make it easier to get together with
other pastors as well. When I pastored in Crystal, Maine, a very rural place, I
had a wonderful relationship with most of the other pastors. We were friends and
colleagues. We knew what was happening in the others’ churches. It was real
fellowship.
In rural churches you often find yourself following in someone else’s shadow.
What that means is that there are heroes to look up to, brave pioneers whose
legacies pave the way for your success. They laid the foundation for you to
build on, and people in town speak highly of them. Of course, there are the
negative challenges of rural pastoring, some of which sound similar to the
positive ones…
Sometimes a previous pastor’s legacy can cause you grief too. If they messed up
(which is often a subjective thing), then you’ll be the first to hear it, and it
might even be held against you. And if the pastor was a success (which again is
a subjective thing), then living up to his or her standards may be nigh
impossible. And don’t forget the wife too. I remember the summer we moved to a
new church, and at the Sunday school picnic, in full view of my wife, someone
said, "Oh, I sure miss Mrs. ______. She was so much fun." This great lady had
been gone for some time, but her legacy will outlast ours.
Another thing about the traditional mindset – that applies to church tradition
as well. I don’t know how hard it is to create an atmosphere of change in an
urban church, but it isn’t easy in a rural one. Sometimes you have to lower your
expectations of what you’d like to see happen. When you don’t have enough
resources, whether they be people, or facilities, or finances, you may have to
expect less. Now, sometimes God gives a vision and He’ll provide the resources
to do it. But other times you have to make due with what you already have. This
means you may not have a vibrant children’s ministry, music ministry, youth
ministry, and/or senior’s ministry. People may leave your church to go to bigger
places that have these things.
There is a trend in our society to move out of rural areas. In the last 4 years,
I have lost 4 young families, all leaders in the church, a total of 19 people,
to jobs elsewhere. I’m not saying urban churches wouldn’t miss 19 people, but
that’s half my Doaktown congregation. Rural churches often have to deal with
losing young families because of employment. Rural areas often treat outsiders
as what we native Grand Mananers call SFA – Strangers From Away. This is, you’re
not from here, you’re not one of us, you never will be, and everybody knows it.
Now, not every church treats every outsider this way. But small towns and small
churches often have cliques that outsiders such as pastors can’t break into.
They may love you, but you’ll never be one of them. And this can be a real
challenge, especially since rural churches are so driven by the personality of
the pastor.
Personally, I have gained great comfort from two books over my years. Not The
Purpose Driven Church and Natural Church Development. Well, they’re
good too, though I’ve never been able to apply them. No, the books I mean are
The Heart of a Great Pastor by H.B. London and Neil Wiseman, and How to
Thrive as a Small-Church Pastor by Steve Bierly. The first is great for
anyone, and the second is great for anyone who thinks theirs is a small church.
Someone once said, "God must love small rural churches – He made enough of
them." We who pastor one or two should remember that God’s plans of redemption
include us, even if we never make a noticeable difference in the world.
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